This is hardly an Islamic idea (although I agree there's a fair bit of peer pressure going on). Did you know for example that Judge Judy, for all it's pretentions of being "real courtroom, real cases" is actually just a voluntary arbitration service, hence why she can only rule up to $5000.
If you then discover that your damage is much greater than you thought, you can still get the insurance company involved and go 'through the courts' so to speak, again still perfectly legal. The fact you intially decided not to involve the companies doesn't prevent you from doing it later.
I'm sure you can get your head around that. Why such a problem with Sharia law?
If the Muslims with the dispute could resolve their arguments in the same way, there'd be no need for the Sharia court to get involved would there?
The Sharia court is used once the 2 parties can't resolve it wthout court intervention.
It isn't as voluntary as is being made out. In these comunities, if you don't go with the Sahria court ruling, you'd be outcast from that comunity.
Here is the view of ex-muslim, human rights activist Maryam Namazie.
BBC Panorama Programme on Sharia: It is enough now » Maryam Namazie
Woe betide them if they then go against it and take it to a REAL civil court
And yes when it comes to a bucket of acid or petrol women are very vulnerable , They are weird eh
The BBC’s Panorama asks, are Sharia councils harming women? It includes a bit of undercover video in which a guy sitting high up as if he were a judge gives a woman a lot of very bad advice. He tells her she should be “brave” and ask the husband who hits her why he does it. “Is it my cooking?” That way she can correct herself.
He also tells her that reporting the hitting to the police is the very last resort and that a shelter is terrible.